If the boundaries you set are too rigid, you risk isolating yourself from the person you are involved with completely.It is important to strike a balance with the boundaries you set in dating to maintain healthy, functioning relationships. After a few dates, he casually texts you just to say “Hi.” Within two seconds, you respond to the text with a series of three dings, because your response has exceeded the data limits for one message. You are so jazzed about him you even call your mom and get her excited.But keeping your personal life, well, personal, is actually a good thing.There’s a big difference between being found that people who feel more like themselves online, rather than offline, are more likely to post emotional, drama-heavy content.Over the past few years I have written about boundaries, your personal limits of what you will and won’t put up with, many times.
Finding the right balance of interest towards a woman without obsession or negligence is generally the best option.
After a few days or weeks of this text exchange, your guy mysteriously gets carpal tunnel syndrome and stops texting. After ignoring your mom, you scratch your head and wonder why all of a sudden after a week or two of heated pursuit, the guy now seems so distant and the messages are becoming more sporadic. But this is what we do by rushing relationships, setting poor boundaries and using technology inappropriately.
So you respond even faster to his messages until they run dry. We overdo it by being constantly available and destroy a budding relationship when it’s fragile and without roots.
I was 21 years old when I drove from Texas to Colorado with my friend Christie to attend the wedding of a friend from Japan. Unbeknownst to me that very evening my future husband sat across the dinner table from me.
At the reception we discovered with delight that the bride’s mother had arranged to seat all the single people at the same dinner table so we could “mingle.” “Who knows what might happen? It wasn’t long before we began a long-distance courtship, got engaged, and then married.